I get a lot of questions about success. Like, “what makes me successful?”Or, “Who did I talk to in order to get where you are?” And I get, “Man how can I be like you?”
These questions inevitably send me into a paradox. Why? Well for a couple of reasons. For one, it’s a shock to me. I am usually taken aback by the individuals who typically ask me because they are usually more talented than I am. Maybe it’s just something that I see in them that they don’t see in themselves. I have had poets ask me these questions and I don’t think that they would have any problem flourishing if they put the work in. It really looks that easy to me. But that’s the problem. The answer is that I see it in them. It doesn’t do them any good if they don’t see it for themselves. I could talk until I am blue in the face and it could all be for naught. The difference between really seeing the fruits of their labor and someone who hasn’t is the dedicated hours placed into passion. It’s not enough to just sit and dream. It means sacrifice and work. It means jumping on a flight to meet someone; not getting a few extra groceries; spending some gas money; stop vacationing; and even turning off the cellphone and cease to exist in the world for a time period. Everyone is just not willing to do that. That’s it! It’s just that simple. Anyone can sing a ballad on Youtube, but are they putting in necessary hours to skill their craft? Anyone can write a book. But is the time being put in to make it a profession? No one wants to own anything. There are many crafts out there to own. Sure the kids may get upset and the wife or husband may miss you. But, it’s up to you to let them know why you are doing something that may seem so crazy to begin with. Then, they will know what it takes to become part of a working process. It will also be a lesson for them to know what work ethic is just to get a little bit. No one ever gets a lot starting, but eventually you will get paid for the work that you have already done. This is called value. Anyone has a value to this world. It’s all over social media. There are amputees lifting weights, people flying, people doing unthinkable things all of the time. It’s just a matter of getting started.
Second, keep it at one. Many people are simply not focused. There needs to be a road map designed on how you are going to obtain your objective. What is your objective? Once that is identified one will have to use all of their time and energy towards it until it is obtained. Some people are just interested in too many things. So resources are spread and then room is developed for disinterest. If money is the motivation, then you will never last. It has to be something that makes you whole. For instance ask anyone who has ever been involved with two people at the same time. The time and dedication is nothing but stress and there is no room for fullness. Some people work 2 jobs and there is no way that they last very long. If they do I guarantee there is something lacking in other areas of their lives. The same applies to your success. Find one thing! Once you find it, everything else is just a hobby. Bo Jackson loved baseball and football was his hobby. He did them both full time and eventually got hurt. It was sad to not see him at his full potential even though he was one of the greatest running backs to ever live. Don’t be that. Go to the day job and be the business owner at night. Don’t go to the gym, but get to work. After working on your craft I guarantee you that you will have more energy. Because, when you do something that you are passionate about you will be on a high like you wouldn’t believe. It’s like being in love all over again and there is no one who can tell you anything about it. Remember there is a difference between being motivated and committed. Motivation will get you to the gym and hyped up for a week. But, commitment is that wedding ring that will drive you to do it again; even when you don’t feel like it.